What’s in a Name?Wellness
Guest Blogger: Rachael Todd
Miss United States 2017
Certified Health Coach and Yoga Instructor, Certified in Positive Psychology
Everybody knows that people make the effort to remember things that are important to them—from a birthday or special anniversary, to a personal identification number or favorite wine label. Therefore, when you fail to remember someone’s name, especially the second or third time they tell it to you, it sends a clear message that you do not deem them important. Their name is seemingly insignificant and irrelevant to you. Of course, you may not consciously feel this way, but the person’s perception of you is their reality.
When first meeting someone it is important that you take the time to be mindful when they introduce themselves to you with their name. Remember it. Pause. Make it important. The excuse that you’re just “not good at remembering names” is not valid.
When you’re able to remember someone’s name it makes a lasting and positive impression and they’re immediately drawn to you and are more likely to remember you and your name.
This is especially important when building relationships, both personally and in business. People do business with people they like and trust. When you know their name and can say it back to them whenever you come into contact, this builds their trust in you, it shows respect, and increases your relationship.
You can’t go wrong when you make an effort to remember someone’s name. They will feel important, validated, and affirmed. The way they view themselves will be more positive because of the amount of effort you’ve shown them. You win because they’ll, in turn, like you more for making them feel that way. There is no faster way to build rapport, cultivate the like-ability factor, and make a great first impression.
“A person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” -Dale Carnegie
So why do so many people just give up on remembering names?
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy and the more we say that we are terrible at this skill, the more it becomes a reality. To unlock your potential for enhancing your ability, here are three critical keys to prepare you for successfully remembering names.
- Make a commitment that it is important and it matters in your life, moving forward. Make it a goal and make an effort to achieve it.
- The second key is attitude. Change the way you talk about yourself. Stop saying the words “I’m just bad at remembering names.” This is an excuse and it just reinforces the attitude to your mind that you can’t do it. Switch your statement around by saying “I’m getting better at remembering names.” Or “I am really enjoying remembering names and I’m good at it.” Your mind believes what you tell it.
- The third key is practice. It’s a skill, and a muscle, just like anything else. You must exercise it. There’s nothing magical about it. Consistency is so important. The more names that you stop, pause, and allow to enter your brain, then repeat the name, the better you will get at it.
Pledge to learn, remember, and use the names of five different people you come into contact with regularly. Perhaps the barista at your coffee shop, the cashier at your grocery store, or the greeter at your church on Sundays. Every time you interact with someone professionally or personally, commit to learning their names. By repeating these steps when you practice, you will build your muscle for memory and you’ll be improving your relationships without even thinking about it!