Don’t Let Negativity Get You Down!Wellness Tips
Negative people seem to love bringing others down. At first you listen, offering a compassionate ear and hope that their negativity is just a passing phase. After all, everyone has a bad day now and again, right? But, if you’re dealing with a habitually pessimistic person, you’re at risk of being drained emotionally yourself. Negativity can be contagious, and if you don’t take action to protect your mindset, you may find your mood infected with hostility.
Disarm their negativity and shield yourself from hostility by using these five simple strategies.
1. Don’t buy into their negativity.
Don’t allow yourself to become infected with toxic negativity. Do not engage in a difficult person’s habitual skepticism. Whatever you do, don’t stoop to their level. Maintain your emotional distance. This doesn’t mean ignoring them, nor should you try to “bright-side” everything. Trying to convince someone to stop being negative may only challenge them to amp up their hostility. A difficult person is probably locked into a negative mindset that is part of the fabric of his or her personality. Negative people often have a demanding nature and put pressure on those close to them. They want others to love and respect them, yet they are incapable of offering emotional support to others. Limit your expectations when dealing with them. A negative person isn’t a good choice to turn to when you’re feeling down. When you do engage with them, use noncommittal language. Acknowledge their comments without endorsing what they are saying. Agree with them as far as you can, then rephrase their complaints using less loaded language. You can’t change their personality, but you might neutralize their toxic outlook.
2. You are not their problem solver.
It is not your job to make an unhappy person happy. If you set out to change a person overnight, you will fall short and may end up feeling disgruntled yourself. The only person whose happiness you can control is your own. You can (and should) remain positive when dealing with negative people, but don’t fool yourself into thinking you can cheer them up or change their mindset.
3. Hold your tongue.
When dealing with a negative person it’s tempting to let yourself slide into anger or frustration, but save yourself the heartache. Responding angrily only feeds their negativity. Hold your tongue and listen. Eventually, when they realize you won’t give them the reaction they seek, they will take their angry rants elsewhere. Tempering your emotional responses can be difficult, but it is key to maintaining inner peace.
4. Be the light.
Strive to personify positivity. Wear your enthusiasm like an armor against a negative person’s onslaught of hostility. Affirm your positivity by doing nice things for a negative person on occasion. These don’t have to be huge. Compliment them for something they genuinely did well. Remind them of a moment when they were happy and things were going well for them. Small gestures will chip away at their negativity. They might eventually find joy, but if they don’t, so be it. Doing nice things for others will make you feel good about yourself and affirm your positive mindset. You can have a successful relationship with a negative person as long as your expectations are based in reality. Don’t expect massive changes overnight. The only person you have control over is you, so focus on your happiness. Rise above and remain positive.
5. Give yourself a break, and come see us at Planet Beach!
Setting boundaries is how you give yourself a break from an encroaching negative person. You need space where you can clear your head after dealing with someone who zaps you emotionally. Keep a negative person at arm’s length to avoid being overwhelmed by their toxicity.
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Written By: Paige Stuart, Planet Beach Brand Manager & Franchisee